CHAT Headsup for Every un-attached man

Southside

Has No Life - Lives on TB
This is why I tell people both men and women if you really want the chance at a partner or even a good friend, find a hobby.

It works a bit better if the sexes are somewhat even (my SCA/Middle Ages club for example) but whatever you are passionate about - books, gardening, cooking, textiles - guys if you want to meet women, remind yourself that men were the original professional knitters and give it a try and in Colonial, America men were the majority of the professional weavers too.

After nearly 40 years in the SCA I have seen all sorts of people find true love who would never even have met or looked at each other in a workplace or bar, but working with someone else to put on a banquet for 300 people, learning heavy armored combat skills together can suddenly make you realized that yeah, he's shorter than you but he's cute, brave and funny. Or, yeah she's very thin (or very fat) but she glides across that room in that sexy 14th-century surcoat, why didn't I notice before?

I even saw what I'm sorry, was the least attractive woman I think I ever met physically (but she was a jewel of a person) end up marrying the most handsome man in the room; and you know on her wedding day she was beautiful! As far as I know, last I heard they are still married.

Sure, some hobbies are "meat markets" but most are not, your local science fiction book club or folk dancing night may skew towards men or women, but what is important is making friends.

Even if you come home to your dog, you've still made friends and social contacts - science increasingly tells us we are a social/tribal species who do better with at least a few trusted people in our lives.

Sometimes that grows into romantic love, or as the best advice I ever got when I was 12 from a long-time married couple said:

"Marry your friends, not people who are just your lovers, you need both!"

Wow, what a thread. I was single to 39. Met my future wife at 35. I thought for sure, I would never marry. I was OK with that. As chance would have it, I married my best friend. 20 years later, we are still together, making 1 better than 2.

Couldn't be happier.

Southside
 

Leela

Veteran Member
Married 23 years to a beautiful women. Wouldn't change it for the world. Lucky, I guess... but I thank God for what He provided. (Maybe not often enough though)

Plenty of both fake male and females with shallow goals out there. Easy to spot them once you start up a conversation.

How many beautiful women are you married to? Are they sisters? Or is it just one beautiful woman?
 
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