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Kathy in FL

Administrator
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OP I think you blew it...with this click bait thread....

Isn't there enough conflict going on in the world that needs to be discussed here, and not a GENDER WAR!!!

They start them for the very reason they will never win them.
 

tiredude

Veteran Member
……...feel lucky...… foxholes were 6 inches deep (I always thought they were 5 ft deep.....)......…. anyway I hope you don't get your fantasy..….
 
FetLife is an online forum for people who live a certain lifestyle be it BDSM or they have a fetish of some sort and they go there to share with others. For instance, some men are attracted, and I mean highly attracted, to pregnant women or women with the "mom belly". I go there to collect anecdotal stories, etc., for white papers.

The rest of what I said should be self-explanatory... if not google it because you have boys and a daughter and may need to give them advice someday. The desire for open or poly relationships is very strong with today's youth and they typically like to hook up with an older couple as they often have money and resources.
Hmm....I guess Collarspace is to good for you? :lkick:
 
Never heard of collarspace, am a member of CollarNCuffs though... their forum loads really slow so I don't go there often.
I think it's similar to FL. I am easily entertained. Or something..... :)

edit, Do not, and I mean, DO NOT go to the site I mentioned unless you have a very strong stomach and want to see the depths of human depravity. I mean that. I went there once, and it never left my mind. It is a f'ed up place.
 
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Ping Jockey

Inactive
‘Most’ single guys are looking for one or all those items on your bullet list.
Some of the women I’ve dated in the past have told me they’re strong women. I ask how much can they bench. Crickets
Some have told me they’re intelligent. I ask how does changes in the Schumann resonance affect all biologic life on the planet. More crickets...
Some have told me that I can’t wear certain items of clothing or jewelry because it’s just not ‘right’. I ask for the check and if they need a ride home.
Some have even gone as far to tell me I don’t have a clue as to who I am or what I think I need in life. I go home without a look back.
My GSD looks at me, wags his tail, is very protective, never gripes or complains, will lay next to me on the couch whilst I read or peruse the webz and expects nothing in return. Which will only push me to make his life as good and comfortable as I can. I work him always making sure to keep it a game and he’s never, ever disappointed. He accepts me for who I am and I accept him in the same regard. Can’t say that about most of today’s women.
In a male’s brain that bundle of nerves that connect the two halves of the brain, the emotional and logic halves, became mostly severed before birth. Men are either logical or, God forbid, emotional as shown in the current crop of socialist men occupying space and wasting O2.
Women’s brains, on the other hand retain that bundle of nerves throughout their lives. In fact that connection between the two halves becomes more enhanced, up-armored if you will, as they age becoming more and more logically emotional or emotionally logical. Never the ‘twain shall meet.
 

tiredude

Veteran Member
Millwright......I said civilized. "He'n and she'n" wont be comfortable to anyone. I ll let you have at it.

Ping Jockey.....Damn...… I just don't know what to say. But I hope you are happy and wish you peace.

As for the dark stuff......yeah don't do it …..you cant 'unthink' it......and it is crazy nuts
 

Millwright

Knuckle Dragger
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‘Most’ single guys are looking for one or all those items on your bullet list.
Some of the women I’ve dated in the past have told me they’re strong women. I ask how much can they bench. Crickets
Some have told me they’re intelligent. I ask how does changes in the Schumann resonance affect all biologic life on the planet. More crickets...
Some have told me that I can’t wear certain items of clothing or jewelry because it’s just not ‘right’. I ask for the check and if they need a ride home.
Some have even gone as far to tell me I don’t have a clue as to who I am or what I think I need in life. I go home without a look back.
My GSD looks at me, wags his tail, is very protective, never gripes or complains, will lay next to me on the couch whilst I read or peruse the webz and expects nothing in return. Which will only push me to make his life as good and comfortable as I can. I work him always making sure to keep it a game and he’s never, ever disappointed. He accepts me for who I am and I accept him in the same regard. Can’t say that about most of today’s women.
In a male’s brain that bundle of nerves that connect the two halves of the brain, the emotional and logic halves, became mostly severed before birth. Men are either logical or, God forbid, emotional as shown in the current crop of socialist men occupying space and wasting O2.
Women’s brains, on the other hand retain that bundle of nerves throughout their lives. In fact that connection between the two halves becomes more enhanced, up-armored if you will, as they age becoming more and more logically emotional or emotionally logical. Never the ‘twain shall meet.

I read all that....twice.


Distilled it down to, "my dog is better than most women".

I concur, BTW.
 

Ping Jockey

Inactive
Oh... I’m one of the happiest people in the world. I have a very, very low tolerance for drama. My gift is true discernment; my bs meter’s needle was pegged around the upscale post many moons ago. Give me 1-2 minutes with someone and I can read every little cobweb, every little secret, every little subtle nuance, and all the petty little immature natterings scrummaging around in their wee punkin head.
Accepting it as a gift, instead of a curse, has been a godsend. It alleviates all sorts of trials and tribulations when dealing with people, particularly the fairer sex.
I’ll not ever say never so perhaps there is the ‘one’ out there as has been mentioned in some of the other threads.
Logically emotional or emotionally logical... so much to choose from, eh???
 

Jubilee on Earth

Veteran Member
Oh... I’m one of the happiest people in the world. I have a very, very low tolerance for drama. My gift is true discernment; my bs meter’s needle was pegged around the upscale post many moons ago. Give me 1-2 minutes with someone and I can read every little cobweb, every little secret, every little subtle nuance, and all the petty little immature natterings scrummaging around in their wee punkin head.
Accepting it as a gift, instead of a curse, has been a godsend. It alleviates all sorts of trials and tribulations when dealing with people, particularly the fairer sex.
I’ll not ever say never so perhaps there is the ‘one’ out there as has been mentioned in some of the other threads.
Logically emotional or emotionally logical... so much to choose from, eh???

Oh man... I hope you find her. It took me until I was middle age to find my husband, my soul mate, and it was like that scene in Wizard of Oz where everything goes from black and white to color. I've never thought life could be so much fun or be so enjoyable. Sure, there's BS to deal with. But I haven't met a person yet who didn't BS a little. It's just human nature. I don't take my better half for granted one single bit, and thank God every day for him--and I have no doubt he feels the same. Yes, he can act like a 14-year old boy at times, but he sure does makes me laugh. And we work well together as a team. Plus great sex is a bonus. ;) I sure do hope and pray you get to experience that some day. After only being married to him for four years now, I could not imagine life without him. Could I do it? Sure. Would I want to? Nope.
 

Dystonic

Senior Member
I see this all of the time on FetLife, it's a lot more common than most people realize. What I found even more amazing is the number of men who either fantasize about being cuckolded or those who are actively being cuckolded and actively search for bulls for their wives/partners.

I keep telling Orion Commander that there are gobs of single women out there that view his being married as a challenge! they're not interested in a long term relationship at all, they just don't want "that" other woman to be in a relationship either. I've never understood women like them... and I avoid them at all costs as they like to brag about their conquests.
Nope. I am 100% male and if my wife even about that cuck route, it’d be bad. We are a plain normal conservative couple who just happen to strive to be successful and have common sense. And still a lot of months we scrape to get by.
But we are surrounded by women who are starved for a man who can do even the simplest of things. I don’t spend all day playing video games and that sets me above 98% of the male population where I live. Women see the commitment between my wife and I and throw themselves at us and we aren’t an attractive couple. I’m a 4 and she’s a 6 but it doesn’t matter because I see they are desperate for something mature and capable.
We don’t do Fetlife or the like. I was just giving an example how women are beginning to realize feminism has failed to the point that a lot of men due to feminism are useless and looking for stability, maturity, and common sense. And that’s it’s so bad, even my wife and I get approached more and more frequently even though that’s not our thing.
 

NCGirl

Veteran Member
Oh... I’m one of the happiest people in the world. I have a very, very low tolerance for drama. My gift is true discernment; my bs meter’s needle was pegged around the upscale post many moons ago. Give me 1-2 minutes with someone and I can read every little cobweb, every little secret, every little subtle nuance, and all the petty little immature natterings scrummaging around in their wee punkin head.
Accepting it as a gift, instead of a curse, has been a godsend. It alleviates all sorts of trials and tribulations when dealing with people, particularly the fairer sex.
I’ll not ever say never so perhaps there is the ‘one’ out there as has been mentioned in some of the other threads.
Logically emotional or emotionally logical... so much to choose from, eh???


I believe you

Hope you and your GSD can find some nice lady one day. GSD's also have superior discernment abilities if you haven't noticed yet. Probably better than your friends who might be swayed by her looks one way or the other. Make sure if you do meet a woman who you feel is up to snuff and isn't too annoying or whatever, that you bring her to meet your dog next. Make sure he approves also. It's important in so many ways to your future happiness.
 

Cardinal

Chickministrator
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I read all that....twice.


Distilled it down to, "my dog is better than most women".

I concur, BTW.
If you accept his definitions of "intelligence" and "strength." Obviously HE is not intelligent enough to figure out how to sustain a loving relationship with a woman, and he is not strong enough to remain in the sometimes smothering covenant of marriage.
 

Ping Jockey

Inactive
If you accept his definitions of "intelligence" and "strength." Obviously HE is not intelligent enough to figure out how to sustain a loving relationship with a woman, and he is not strong enough to remain in the sometimes smothering covenant of marriage.
Perhaps... perhaps not. Intelligence comes not from how much knowledge one had acquired, it is how well one uses that knowledge to better themselves and those around them, their circle of family and close friends. Strength come not from muscle mass but from the mind and spirit. Combined together it makes one much better at discerning the intentions of those around you.
Even through the written word one can deduce, through intellect and strength, that even you have some ‘things’ that need to be addressed, ironed out, within your own self.
I attacked no one, nor did I make the comments in my post personal.
 

Cardinal

Chickministrator
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Perhaps... perhaps not. Intelligence comes not from how much knowledge one had acquired, it is how well one uses that knowledge to better themselves and those around them, their circle of family and close friends. Strength come not from muscle mass but from the mind and spirit. Combined together it makes one much better at discerning the intentions of those around you.
Even through the written word one can deduce, through intellect and strength, that even you have some ‘things’ that need to be addressed, ironed out, within your own self.
I attacked no one, nor did I make the comments in my post personal.
I would be the first to admit that I have stuff that needs addressing. Another way to say, we are all sinners and fall short of the Glory of God.
But I am single only because God called my spouse home, not because I am bitter about the opposite sex.
I still love the company of men, and have hope I will one day meet the right one for my personality type, again.
 

Millwright

Knuckle Dragger
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packyderms_wife

Neither here nor there.
I think it's similar to FL. I am easily entertained. Or something..... :)

edit, Do not, and I mean, DO NOT go to the site I mentioned unless you have a very strong stomach and want to see the depths of human depravity. I mean that. I went there once, and it never left my mind. It is a f'ed up place.

I would say the same thing about the places I visit... there are some rather tame and vanilla areas of those two forums I mentioned and then there's the crap that came from the depths of hell itself... like the forced abortion shit and the white slaves to black masters bullshit.
 

Kathy in FL

Administrator
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I call BS on all the self glorification and grandstanding nonsense on this thread.

Enough with the ridiculous gender-bias crap going in either direction. We all have equal access to salvation and get equal treatment come Judgment Day. If you believe anything else and act any other way, damn you are in for a surprise. Lord have mercy, grow up and get over yourselves.

If you find yourselves alone, there is probably a really good reason for that. If you want to be alone there's probably a good reason for that as well. Just stop boring the hell out of everyone by bragging about it or bitching about it. If you want the situation changed then figure out what you did wrong the first time around and fix it. If you are incapable of that then don't blame someone else for your personal choices.
 

et2

Has No Life - Lives on TB
Yup.

Last year, I was on a dating site and it's UGLY. Most guys are looking for a "nurse or a purse." EITHER ONE will do.

The thing is, I'm 60 and while I am height/weight proportionate and healthy as a horse, I am also a solid 5-6 on the looks scale. I'm not beautiful and I'm not unattractive. I'm VERY average. And that's a deal killer for most men on these dating sites. How pathetic is that?

These guys are in their 60s and they still can't get beyond a pretty face?

Match dot com is an especially nasty version of "rate my face" and if you don't have "the look," you're in trouble.

So in the dating world, I have FOUR strikes against me: I'm average, I'm well educated, I'm smarter than the average bear, and I've enjoyed a lot of success in my chosen profession. Make it five. I'm tall.

And that's the trifecta of death in the dating world.

I've got 80-year-old married men hitting on me, and I have perennially unemployed 65-year-old men (on their third bankruptcy) wanting to snuggle up, and I've got morbidly obese men telling me all about their health problems, so for now, I'm going to travel and have a LOT of fun, and if it all works out, I'll die with $47 in my checking account because I'm going to be busy spending my children's inheritance.

But back to the OP, it'd be real easy for me to hate men as much as you hate women, because from my view, many SINGLE men are not just foolish, obtuse, shallow, small-minded and pitiable, they're downright ignorant.

However...I've also got many men in my life who've been angels and have helped me through the worst hard times. So I refuse to relegate an entire class of God's creation to the rubbish pile.

And you are a perfect example of a someone that has there stuff together. Good for you !!!
 

et2

Has No Life - Lives on TB
The single women flood is crazy. I’m on disability and have more bad days than good. What I manage to accomplish on a good day beats many of what’s available these days. Enough so, that my bad days are overlooked.
Here’s the kicker. I am happily married to a small business owner. And women are looking at us, not just me. As a caveat, we live in a liberal mid size city, and there are plenty of guys desperate for a woman. They see a conservative couple who can change a flat, fix a garbage disposal, just basic tasks a teenager should do and can’t find men under 40 to do that. We’re pushing 50 and they are coming to us and making it known they’d be a third. We turn em down but, it just shows the times.

Actually I knew a guy and his girlfriend .... They had a lot of fun with others. She somewhat went both ways. He said anyway, I think he was like a kid in a candy store.

You should see him today. 10 years younger than me and looks like he's ready to give it up. Playing hard must take its toll.
 

packyderms_wife

Neither here nor there.
Yup.

Last year, I was on a dating site and it's UGLY. Most guys are looking for a "nurse or a purse." EITHER ONE will do.

The thing is, I'm 60 and while I am height/weight proportionate and healthy as a horse, I am also a solid 5-6 on the looks scale. I'm not beautiful and I'm not unattractive. I'm VERY average. And that's a deal killer for most men on these dating sites. How pathetic is that?

These guys are in their 60s and they still can't get beyond a pretty face?

Match dot com is an especially nasty version of "rate my face" and if you don't have "the look," you're in trouble.

So in the dating world, I have FOUR strikes against me: I'm average, I'm well educated, I'm smarter than the average bear, and I've enjoyed a lot of success in my chosen profession. Make it five. I'm tall.

And that's the trifecta of death in the dating world.

I've got 80-year-old married men hitting on me, and I have perennially unemployed 65-year-old men (on their third bankruptcy) wanting to snuggle up, and I've got morbidly obese men telling me all about their health problems, so for now, I'm going to travel and have a LOT of fun, and if it all works out, I'll die with $47 in my checking account because I'm going to be busy spending my children's inheritance.

But back to the OP, it'd be real easy for me to hate men as much as you hate women, because from my view, many SINGLE men are not just foolish, obtuse, shallow, small-minded and pitiable, they're downright ignorant.

However...I've also got many men in my life who've been angels and have helped me through the worst hard times. So I refuse to relegate an entire class of God's creation to the rubbish pile.

How many kids and grandkids do you have??? I may have someone I can introduce you to, he's a widower, has four grown and well established kids, nine grandkids, is quite the family man. Not rich by any means but has been a school bus driver for decades and works for the city IIRC maintaining the parks, school yards, and the city golf course... so another words he can hold a job down. His one health issue is he's a type one diabetic. He's very conservative and has a crazy crazy sense of humor... and he's not located far from you, about 40 minutes to the north east.
 

NCGirl

Veteran Member
How many kids and grandkids do you have??? I may have someone I can introduce you to, he's a widower, has four grown and well established kids, nine grandkids, is quite the family man. Not rich by any means but has been a school bus driver for decades and works for the city IIRC maintaining the parks, school yards, and the city golf course... so another words he can hold a job down. His one health issue is he's a type one diabetic. He's very conservative and has a crazy crazy sense of humor... and he's not located far from you, about 40 minutes to the north east.

This thread has definitely taken many strange turns.

Hope the matchmaking works out.
 

jward

passin' thru
But seriously, eww.
I'm surprised noone has figured it out.
Just off the top of my head...

Women have no balls and can not defend themselves,
-- exceptions to the rule duly noted.

So, they do not own themselves - by definition, as primative as it may be.

Women have smaller brains which are wired different from a man's brain.
They generally can not think like a man, because God created them thataway.

So, they need a man to navigate the perilous times that are upon us.

Any resources a woman has are more likely than a man's, to be poorly deployed and under-utilized.

So, the woman needs a man for his muscle power, including the brain muscle, if not for any resources he may bring to the table.

Feel free to elaborate along these lines, knowing my own perspective as noted in the points mentioned.

Don't blame me. Blame your creator, if you feel the need...

Oh, and it don't matter whether I'm good looking.
All you gotta do is look at the men some women choose.

Oh my. How did you sneak all t his schiff in w/o me seeing it??? I will give you the needin' a man to for the maps thing, I definitely do depend upon em for that, proving that ole saying even a broken clock finds a nut once or twice- ; ) but the rest o' it---- I've been shot at, held at knife n gun point more than some cops I've known, and walked away unscathed every. single. time. due to nothing more than my quick wit and words. Well due to the lord and him alone. When I hit the mensa dinners, it is NOT as a "+1" and the only muscle I need is in my my fingers, which I use to either write checks or summon men happy to help. Not able to handle resources well as men? hmm, helped more than one GF prepare for - and pass with flyin' colors- her CPA licensing- and run my piece of paradise like a small shire.

Your theory has some sound suppositions within, but it doesn't prevent it from being wrong. Why do you assume the attention stems from some lack the woman perceives in her life? To the contrary, I give my time and attention because it feels good to play the "moon" and reflect a person's light back to them. Not because of a weakness or need, but from strength and joy---and immense gratitude that my feeling nature has regenerated enough that I can.
I wonder- could our experiences in the world be different due to our differing perceptions of cause and effect?

I am glad ya are too old to flirt LOL. Firstly, I'm happy with what I recieve, despite it's amorphous nature--- but I don't know nuthin' bout that stuff, and am too old n disinclined to start learnin it now... but, thanks, I guess : )
 

Ping Jockey

Inactive
I believe you

Hope you and your GSD can find some nice lady one day. GSD's also have superior discernment abilities if you haven't noticed yet. Probably better than your friends who might be swayed by her looks one way or the other. Make sure if you do meet a woman who you feel is up to snuff and isn't too annoying or whatever, that you bring her to meet your dog next. Make sure he approves also. It's important in so many ways to your future happiness.
Thank you NC, your kindness is most appreciated. And trust me, there always will be a ‘sniff’ test.
 

Grock

Veteran Member
Isaiah 4:1
1And in that day seven women shall take hold of one man, saying, “We shall eat our own food and wear our own clothes; only let us be called by your name, to take away our reproach.”
 

jward

passin' thru
Oh man... I hope you find her. It took me until I was middle age to find my husband, my soul mate, and it was like that scene in Wizard of Oz where everything goes from black and white to color. I've never thought life could be so much fun or be so enjoyable. Sure, there's BS to deal with. But I haven't met a person yet who didn't BS a little. It's just human nature. I don't take my better half for granted one single bit, and thank God every day for him--and I have no doubt he feels the same. Yes, he can act like a 14-year old boy at times, but he sure does makes me laugh. And we work well together as a team. Plus great sex is a bonus. ;) I sure do hope and pray you get to experience that some day. After only being married to him for four years now, I could not imagine life without him. Could I do it? Sure. Would I want to? Nope.
If the man doesn't still have, and letcha meet, that lil boy, he's no fun! I see why your name is Jubliant, lucky you :D
 
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